RELATIONSHIP WITH REGARD TO TIME AND DISTANCE

As work escalates one's mind instinctively deviates from the very quintessence of a relationship i.e., TIME INVESTMENT though it is known to everybody that for any relationship to flourish and succeed contribution of time by each individual towards it is of utmost importance. Despite our knowledge of it we invariably fail to understand its significance and play possum to the consequences that are subsequent to our everyday dialogue of: "I am very sorry dear. I failed to call you or send you a text message because I was tied up with loads of work." However, adjacent to time very closely associated are various other ingredients like distance, fallacious thoughts, poor communication etc. that contribute toward the downfall of a relationship.

The long terrestrial distance between two individuals who are always trying to figure out what is in store for them in the coming future, have always been and always will be a hindrance in the way of a fulfilling relationship. Thousands of miles and many seas apart - a distance that can only be travelled after a prudent contemplation, relationship of any kind can fall prey to the stings of diabolical thoughts engendered in a person owing to poor communication and lack of time.

When we meet an individual for the first time-in person or on the internet, it’s a common human propensity to grow curious about that person and we tend to volley him/her with innumerable questions that keep on whirling in our minds. Not everybody we come across is interesting and can hold or participate in a decent conversation. But a few with their intelligence and mental accomplishments leave a permanent and stirring effect on our minds. Yet out of those selected few we still sagaciously make an effort to winnow down the list to the best and eventually we are left with but one. By degrees we grow fond of him/her and wish to meet him/her everyday practically or virtually (on the internet through an LCD screen) with a view to striking an enlightened, penetrating yet fun-filled and humorous conversation. Finally, we acknowledge our Love to him/her and plant a kiss on his/her cheeks if present in person or send him/her a flying kiss if over the internet.

During the initial days of a new relationship there is so much of energy and enthusiasm and most importantly TIME for each other. Come hail or high water one would always be present and available for the other doing nothing important but either lazily strolling in a baseball park alone or gazing simultaneously at the escalator and the elevator inside a shopping mall anticipating his/her arrival or sit at home restlessly fiddling with one's fingers in front of Skype. Literally, at the start of a relationship the violent natural urge to be with one's sweetheart is the fountain of all that tremendous exhilaration and devotion which gradually starts declining as days pass by. Slowly the affinity towards one's partner starts waning which affects the other individual on many levels and in many ways. It is then various conditions like depression, dejection, feeling of forlornness, sadness etc start setting in a person's life. A strong sense of apprehension engulfs him almost paralyzing his thoughts and he finds himself in a state of perplexity trying to understand what might have gone wrong.

Now less communication and poor sapless conversations between partners make each of them cudgel their brains to understand the loopholes in their relationship and they look for answers in their own terms and through their own perspectives. They become argumentative and leave no stone unturned to be defensive. At this juncture 'WE' gets transformed into 'I' and soon they discover themselves in the groove of a mechanical life-a life of drudgery, monotony and lethargy. They start blaming and cursing each other for their problems and misery and soon a relationship of great promise and endurance comes to an ugly end.

In the interim fallacious thoughts have always kept penetrating their minds which acted as a catalyst to cause the ultimate disaster of separation. Both of them were trying to look for a solution though half-heartedly during the course of their separation and their minds were idle most of the times. And as it is rightly said "An evil mind is a devils workshop" so finally their idle minds were stung by a poisonous tail of wickedness and heinousness.

DEATH AND BEAUTY

I always thought I could never lose my grandma.I would look up at the sky and sought God's help many a times to keep her hale and hearty and with me forever until I died.But that would not happen because God ordains everyone's destiny and everybody has to go after they have performed their assigned stint on this earth.Nobody can fight their fate and eventually have to succumb to death---the mighty leveler.

Irrespective of one's status,stature,wealth,health,goodness,wickedness one has to shed off one's earthly physique ,which is merely a container holding in it the 'LIFE', and be mingled with dust.This physique,of which we all feel proud of is completely worthless without a soul in it.And the soul is one thing which when steps out of this corporeal straitjacket takes with it 'Life' and with it stops every anatomical function right from breathing to eating to walking.

Death is unquestionably a very powerful weapon which nobody can escape--Rich or poor; beautiful or ugly.Despite all our efforts humanly possible to remain alive  we eventually perish.But we do not stop trying our efforts to look admirable and statuesque. Even my grandma was beautiful and used many contemporary powder, lotion, lipstick, rouge,  and many other preparation for beautifying the face, skin, hair, nails, etc  but nothing could protect her. Though years of usage of cosmetics formed subsequent layers on her skin,those layers were not thick enough to preserve her soul and life.


Can cosmetics and modern methods of dermatology retain the soul and prevent it from shuffling off of the mortal coil?

Wow! we all know the answer.Nevertheless we all are so anesthetized with looking good that we tend to neglect our primary purpose and choose beauty over duty.We spend hours at a stretch pampering our skin in front of the mirror to look like a piece of art but end up becoming a fashion faux pas.We often read about people loosing jobs for not looking good and candidates with color--black ,brown--barely selected in interviews for not having the physical presence.Even in schools and colleges it has become indispensable to look good and wear clothes in vogue to catch everybody's attention--friends' and faculty's alike.

A MADE UP LADY

We all have flaws and blemishes and hence allow ourselves to makeup but most of the times people get carried away and appear madeup.There is a gulf between make up and made up. While makeup is the use of minimal cosmetics to conceal your flaws to look decent and beautiful made up is the use of cosmetics excessively to look plastic and worse than a doll.You become a disaster when you look made up which was otherwise a diametrically opposite situation.

Do we still think of those cosmetics and modern skin,hair,facial and nail treatment which might cost somebody an arm and a leg?
Or is it better to die without an arm and a leg?

M+M+M=M

                                   Certainly sounds like some formula related to Mathematics, Physics or Chemistry and we start cudgeling our brains ,engulfed by a plethora of comprehensions. But to your surprise ,as you go through the blog, you would discover that it is not what it ought to be.This relation is rather linked with, not any classroom subject but with life's reality and the reality we all know is very sad and depressing and the worse part is that we are helpless. Am I sounding intriguing or just the contrary? Hold your breath I will soon reveal the meaning as well as the significance of this relation i.e.,

                                                                   M+M+M=M.

    

                                  What grieves us all when we look around? This is a very generic question but considerably of  high concern. Different  people have different answers as this is an introspective question and is based on individual observation and calculation.Though  it's a practical impossibility to reach everybody's opinion yet I firmly believe that one thing which grieves us all is the attitude and outlook of today's YOUTH.Why is it so?

                                 Three things that have substantially and extensively consumed our today's Youth are :

                                 1} MOBILE PHONES.

                                 2} MOTOR BIKES.            

                                & 3} MAIDEN/MISS.    

                                 It does not surprise us anymore when we see school goers,let alone those who go to colleges, with mobile phones in their hands.But what surprises us is the role of parents in this context and their contribution towards an extravagant phone in their son or daughter's hand. Due to the advent of Westernisation people's perspective on life have changed but that change has, with it, brought a bad influence which has infected almost all of us. Only on a blessed few the impingement has been negligible and  they are able to escape this modern virus. Mobile phones, also popularly known as Cell phones have become the order of the day without which it is near impossible for us to step out beyond the threshold of the door.We do understand the importance of this modern means of communication but who would explain to us the consequences of the reckless use of this useful electronic device. Parents, neither restrain their kids from buying high priced cell phones nor keep a check on the usage of phones, rather they themselves buy their children costly handsets because to have an expensive phone is in vogue and it reflects the status of the family.Not to have a phone is considered ancient and the one who does not have it is a Neanderthal  Even if somebody hails from a poor family he would care not even an iota to pester his parents to buy him an expensive mobile phone though it might cost his parents an arm and a leg. His only concern is to not feel any less amidst his affluent friends.The situation is further aggravated by the insensitive and thoughtless use of the phone 24/7 anywhere and everywhere-- classroom,washroom,hospital,conference hall and where not. So the mobile phone has infused a ''NEW LIFE" into the young generation which would, sooner or later, be a cause of its doom.

                              You are considered a man of distinguished quality amongst your friends if you have a motorbike and  if you can ride it really fast. Friends clap at your bike stunts; their eyes pop out, mouth wide  open and they drool over your acts. But do they think of ensuing consequences which are invariably fatal? I would like to add here the statistics of motorbike accidents:

                               Motorcycle Accident Injuries and Fatalities

According to the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA), 5,290 motorbike riders were killed in 2008 during motorbike accidents. This represents a 2% increase from 2007. Approximately 96,000 motorcycle drivers were injured in 2008.

                                        Motorcycle Involvement in Accidents

The NHTSA has reported the following statistics for 2008:

• *Approximately 47% of all fatal motorcycle accidents involved a collision with another motor vehicle
• *During two-vehicle accidents, 77% of motorcycles were struck in the front while only 7% were hit from behind
• *Motorcycles are substantially more likely than other vehicles to be involved in a fatal accident involving a collision   8with a stationary object – 25% for motorcycles, 19% for cars, 14% for small trucks, 4% for large trucks
• *In 41% of the 2,387 two-vehicle fatal accidents involving motorcycles, the other vehicle turned left into the motorcycle
• *35% of motorcycle drivers killed in motorcycle accidents were speeding, compared to 23% of car drivers in fatal auto accidents
• *Fatal motorcycle accidents are more likely to be alcohol-related than any other type of fatal motor vehicle accident – 29% of fatal motorcycle accidents involved a driver with a BAC over .08 compared to 23% of fatal auto accidents, 23% of accidents involving small trucks, and 2% of accidents involving large trucks
• *43% of motorcyclists involved in single-vehicle fatal accidents had a BAC over .08
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                                 Youngsters are well aware of all these accidents but turn a deaf ear. lest their reputation earned would mingle with dust.So they continue their passion with much stubbornness and meet with their fate.

                                  Last but not the least the reason which could bring an entire generation to a deadlock is Maiden or girl.Too strong a statement but its true. There is no dearth of example to proof this. History bore witness to many such incidents and history may be repeated again.

                                  In relation to present younger generation ,a young boy without a girl is the talk of the town and he is always made fun of for not having a girlfriend.Even amongst your friends who have girlfriends, you will be mocked at if you don't have one. This is the present scenario without many of us realizing that sometimes having a girl can have an adverse effect. The time invested in making your girlfriend happy and feeling  blissful which is mostly momentary, if were utilized in a productive way could have fetched you more in many aspects and secured your future. I always feel happy for those who understand this and give primary importance to one's career and for whom the love of parents gain utmost significance  over love of a girlfriend who can breach his trust and forsake him any moment. Can anyone have sanguine expectations from anybody, let alone one's girlfriend? The answer is always a NO. We must remember that we all are individuals and can in no way bank upon anybody when it comes to securing our future."WE OURSELVES ARE THE MASTERS OF OUR SOUL AND THE ARCHITECT OF OUR DESTINY".

                                   If you have made it so far then you can obviously draw a conclusion why have I titled my blog as :

                                   M+M+M=M. 

                                   THIS RELATION SHOWS THAT

                                   MOBILE PHONES+MOTORBIKES+MAIDEN=MASSACRE

 i.e., If one fails to balance all these three then his destruction is imminent. Since one fails to strike a balance between the ideal and the practical ,one meets with disappointment and failure. Out of the considerable chunk a handful comprehend this reality of life and become successful without falling prey to the stings of M+M+M...............

                                   THE SOONER YOU REALIZE THIS THE BETTER OFF YOU WILL BE.

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BE A CHILD AT HEART ********

I pour liquor from the bottle into my glass and imbibe a little. I walk up a few steps towards my armchair on which was carved out some idiosyncratic designs of angels with wings and magic wands and glistening crowns on their heads. Whenever i think of angels my mind races back to the days when my grandpa would take me on a walk and create before me a heaven, scintillating and full of angels ,with his stories.

When I think of those stories I feel myself consumed with curiosity and inquisitiveness.I gently touch those angels with my hands and my grandpa's words absorb me and make me feel sad and poignant.I am sobbing and tearful and an intense feeling of forlornness engulfs me because i am unable to see those angels today with that amount of imagination and beauty which i did decades ago when i was a child and i desperately long to be with my grandpa again.I wish i were a kid without a grain of guilt, always happy and playful.

 Am I sad today? Do people not remain same throughout their lives? Do we fail to enjoy the stories which our parents and grandparents told us? Do angels no longer fascinate us? Why does this metamorphosis occur which with it brings misery and anguish?

With age comes maturity and logical way of looking into things but cynicism and selfishness also do not spare us.We start treading on avenues which look bigger and better from a distance, forsaking what is really beautiful and can make the world a peaceful place to live in.We are so anesthetized by materialistic gain that mental gratification through intellectuality and spirituality becomes secondary or almost null.We obscure ourselves with such a strong wall of ego that no amount of light in any form-emotions,advices,guidance,intelligence-can break or destroy or for that matter even perforate a hole in that wall. We learn to be manipulative and calculative while dealing with people's feelings and simultaneously spare no effort when it comes to inflicting pain on them.Man alone are capable of all sins.

Why do we learn all these when our wisdom says that eventually everything mingles with dust and becomes worthless.

CAN'T WE BE A CHILD AT HEART? Innocent and harmless, free from worries and secular pursuits, and who can savor and get immersed in the stories of angels.

THANK YOU !!

My life has been full of serendipitous twists and turns. I have, in my 21 years of existence on this planet, been fortunate enough to come in contact with a few enlightened people without whom my education and learning would have been incomplete.I am still learning and will continue always.They have taught me many things right from eating at a table to dealing with the most intricate problems.

It is a common human propensity to grumble and disgruntle when it comes to accepting new things and treading new avenues.We remain so happy and contented with our present lifestyle offered to us by our  parents that we fear a change.We cocoon ourselves with a blanket of luxury and happiness so thick that we tend to ignore every thing that is adverse and bitter. We feel confident that nothing terrestrial could perforate that thick blanket wrapped around us by our parents. But does it really remain unaffected and intact? Except for a lucky few we all can be unanimous in saying 'NO.'
 I was not born with a silver spoon in my mouth neither was brought forth by birth in an impoverished and malnourished condition.My parents took good care of me like any other parents and catered to all my needs and wants.They left no stone unturned to give me the right education at the right place and at the right time.By dint of hard work and blessings i am now at a stage where i am able to write a few sentences in English-the universal language,which is definitely going to open plethora of options for me.
I was safely abiding under the wings of my parents until one day when it dawned on me that I should stop relying on them and set off to discover the world on my own.It was a maiden and thrilling experience for me to be left alone who was invariably living with his parents.A new place is always is always full of uncertainties and apprehensions but i have kept my mind open to learning and dealing with any situation.Now i am under the wings of my own self and conscience and living all by myself.
Reading,writing,intelligent as well as humorous conversation have always excited and intrigued me. Owing to these attributes i came in contact with a few learned men whose presence and poise alone teach  me a lot of things, let alone their wisdom filled confabulations.I owe them my confidence engendered in me without which my decision to live away from my parents and achieve success in life would have eroded..My deepest gratitude and heartfelt thanks to the Almighty for putting such wonderful people in my life.