Wednesday, March 14, 2012

RELATIONSHIP WITH REGARD TO TIME AND DISTANCE



As work escalates one's mind instinctively deviates from the very quintessence of a relationship i.e., TIME INVESTMENT though it is known to everybody that for any relationship to flourish and succeed contribution of time by each individual towards it is of utmost importance. Despite our knowledge of it we invariably fail to understand its significance and play possum to the consequences that are subsequent to our everyday dialogue of: "I am very sorry dear. I failed to call you or send you a text message because I was tied up with loads of work." However, adjacent to time very closely associated are various other ingredients like distance, fallacious thoughts, poor communication etc. that contribute toward the downfall of a relationship.

The long terrestrial distance between two individuals who are always trying to figure out what is in store for them in the coming future, have always been and always will be a hindrance in the way of a fulfilling relationship. Thousands of miles and many seas apart - a distance that can only be travelled after a prudent contemplation, relationship of any kind can fall prey to the stings of diabolical thoughts engendered in a person owing to poor communication and lack of time.

When we meet an individual for the first time-in person or on the internet, it’s a common human propensity to grow curious about that person and we tend to volley him/her with innumerable questions that keep on whirling in our minds. Not everybody we come across is interesting and can hold or participate in a decent conversation. But a few with their intelligence and mental accomplishments leave a permanent and stirring effect on our minds. Yet out of those selected few we still sagaciously make an effort to winnow down the list to the best and eventually we are left with but one. By degrees we grow fond of him/her and wish to meet him/her everyday practically or virtually (on the internet through an LCD screen) with a view to striking an enlightened, penetrating yet fun-filled and humorous conversation. Finally, we acknowledge our Love to him/her and plant a kiss on his/her cheeks if present in person or send him/her a flying kiss if over the internet.

During the initial days of a new relationship there is so much of energy and enthusiasm and most importantly TIME for each other. Come hail or high water one would always be present and available for the other doing nothing important but either lazily strolling in a baseball park alone or gazing simultaneously at the escalator and the elevator inside a shopping mall anticipating his/her arrival or sit at home restlessly fiddling with one's fingers in front of Skype. Literally, at the start of a relationship the violent natural urge to be with one's sweetheart is the fountain of all that tremendous exhilaration and devotion which gradually starts declining as days pass by. Slowly the affinity towards one's partner starts waning which affects the other individual on many levels and in many ways. It is then various conditions like depression, dejection, feeling of forlornness, sadness etc start setting in a person's life. A strong sense of apprehension engulfs him almost paralyzing his thoughts and he finds himself in a state of perplexity trying to understand what might have gone wrong.

Now less communication and poor sapless conversations between partners make each of them cudgel their brains to understand the loopholes in their relationship and they look for answers in their own terms and through their own perspectives. They become argumentative and leave no stone unturned to be defensive. At this juncture 'WE' gets transformed into 'I' and soon they discover themselves in the groove of a mechanical life-a life of drudgery, monotony and lethargy. They start blaming and cursing each other for their problems and misery and soon a relationship of great promise and endurance comes to an ugly end.

In the interim fallacious thoughts have always kept penetrating their minds which acted as a catalyst to cause the ultimate disaster of separation. Both of them were trying to look for a solution though half-heartedly during the course of their separation and their minds were idle most of the times. And as it is rightly said "An evil mind is a devils workshop" so finally their idle minds were stung by a poisonous tail of wickedness and heinousness.